Kait Mae

I hate first dates.

There, I said it.

I know that sounds cynical, but I have a good reason not to like them.  Well, actually, a list of reasons.  Anyway, here I go.

I hate small talk.  And that’s all first dates really are.  I want to know the juicy details of someone’s life.  I want to know their hopes and dreams, what they imagine their future like, what they want in a family one day.  I want to get to know them on the deepest parts of their soul. I hate the shallow questions. Ask me the deep stuff, I’ll answer, and that’s all I want.

People expect me to get super dressed up in makeup, a super cute and expensive outfit, complete with heels and completely done-up hair.  That’s not me. I’m the kind of girl who doesn’t wear makeup except for really important events, and I rarely do anything to my hair. And I am constantly wearing super-casual outfits built from clothes I find at thrift stores.  I’m not gonna dress up like someone I’m not just to impress a boy. After a couple dates, or when we specifically schedule a fancy date, I’ll dress up but it won’t be to impress anyone, it’ll be because I want to.

Dinner and a movie is not my ideal type of date.  That’s the majority of the first dates I’ve gone on.  It’s either that or they invite me over to watch Netflix.  I don’t want to do that. Take me on an adventure. Take me to a pet store and watch me get excited over all the animals.  Take me to Target or Walmart or H-E-B and listen to my dumb puns. Take me somewhere you can get to know me, not a place where you have to be quiet and not learn anything about the other person.

It’s the beginning of a possible relationship and I just want to skip to the better parts of the relationship. I want to be able to just grab their hands in public and have it not be too soon. I want to meet their family, their friends, their pets. I want to know their favorite things, want to participate in their life.

I want to skip to the part where we’re already in love.

But, that hasn’t happened yet, and I know it’s not a good thing to rush a relationship. And it’s a good thing when it goes by at a rate that both partners are okay with, and nothing is rushed or hurried.  I’ve just learned that I am one to learn the obvious things as time goes on. I don’t want to go through practically a trivia quiz about myself with someone.  I want them to learn as we grow together.

And, I guess, that’s pretty much the main reason I hate first dates.  But, hopefully, first dates are now a thing of the past. You can read more about that from my last post.

Anyway, I want to hear your opinions on first dates, and I’ll see y’all next week.