Toxic Friendship

I’ve just been hurt by one of my best friends. I’m going to give you a little background to our friendship since we met, and what the last straw was. Please comment if you think I’m overreacting.

First, I met her because she roomed with a friend from high school during our freshman year of college. We bonded over random things, became close friends, and trusted each other with a lot of secrets. I introduced her to a guy I liked, she seemed like she hated them, and that seemed like that was it for their friendship. She kept talking to him, and he went after her instead. Now, this has happened every time I like a guy. She will befriend him and talk about me in the worst ways, spreading rumors to them, and making them fall for her and drop me like scum. And every time I get into a relationship, she’ll make up stories to make them not like me, or even start talking badly about them and getting in my head. Just last night (the night before I wrote this), she stayed in the guy I like’s room all night, and then came back and told me that she “didn’t get any sleep last night with [guy I like]”. She then told me it wasn’t a bad thing that he is falling for her. That’s all I’m going to write for now, but on to other things she’s done to me. She’s always putting me down, telling me I’m not good enough when I do anything. She always tells me I’m not going to be a good mom one day, which doesn’t bother me as much as it did at first, but still. And she’s controlling. I can’t do anything without her making sure it benefits her most, and barely helps with anything I do. She’s constantly spreading lies about me, twisting my words into helping her get ahead in our friend circle.

I’m sick of it.

I’m still going to be civil to her, and I’ll be a friend, but she is no longer a best friend.

And this is why:

Once trust is broken that many times, you realize they’re really not your friend. They are just using you. And I’m done with it. I’m done with being told I’m not good enough. I’m done with being put down. I’m tired of being a pushover.

I’m taking control of my own life, and happiness.

So, I guess what I meant to write was a helpful article, but instead, I wrote a rant to help myself. But, here is some advice for people with a toxic friend:

Ease them out of your life, or cut them out entirely. It’s not worth it because they aren’t real friends. Just take control and leave them. Your life can only get better once they’re out of it.